Thursday, June 19, 2008

POST-DIVORCE DEBAUCHERY

I was inspired by a member on AdultFriendFinder with her post called "what a year!" to note my new, sexy and fun accomplishments of the past four years since my divorce. Hopefully, this we be a constantly evolving list.

* Became a fully confident, sexually satisfied human being and most importantly learned to not define myself by who I was with and whether or not I was in a relationship. Finally, figured out that it was ME who made ME happy not someone else’s responsibility.

* Found that being polyamorous is not just an excuse to fool around, but also a chance to love and share and respect your partner(s) deeply. That polyamory has nothing to do with being promiscuous or with lack of commitment, love or devotion. In fact, it's all about deep commitment to honesty, sharing, openness and the happiness of your partner.

* Learned how to lose a great deal of my inhibitions

* Realized that yes, I am kinkier than most but still blown away by some of you all out there i.e. there’s always room for new insights ☺

* Became multi-orgasmic. Learned how to injaculate and men, it is worth the effort…way worth the effort.

* Became fully comfortable with my bi-tendencies and fantasies and anxious to find the right man to make them a reality. (I'm way picky, boys so be patient)

* Learned that my previous idea of what was sexually attractive was not only limiting but completely off-base…you are ALL gorgeous.

* Learned to have a lot more self-confidence in bed and in life.

* Started a sex blog that has become incredibly fun after years of secret journaling.

* Discovered that I love ass play and light bondage and discipline and role-playing even more than I ever thought.

* Re-entered a feverish and loving sexual relationship with an ex-lover from 27 years ago (who has been in a long, sexless marriage she is currently freeing herself from) and it’s SO much more passionate and sensual and intense than ever before. She is extremely responsive and open to many of my new sexual explorations and is as romantic and loving as anyone I have ever met. I adore every minute with her.

* Had phone sex for the first time and with my various lovers that shook the rooftops and allowed my verbal tendencies a new outlet.

* Had transcendent sex that totally changed my life spiritually and sexually after working through the initial confusion and misplaced emotional roller coaster that it began.

* Began a sexual tryst, a sort of more well-defined and heady “fuck buddy” regular scene with an “exploratory partner” that opened so many doors and realized so many fantasies and in spite of our early “rules” found us both just falling wonderfully for each other in an incredibly open, giving, sharing and non-clinging way that still reveals a wonderful depth of emotion and trust between us whether or not we are currently trysting.

* Had an orgy with two male old friends and two beautiful working girls that was just a blast.

* Had sexual relations with women 2, 13, 15, 25 and 28 years my junior.

* Admitted my bi-curiousness to a large handful of good friends and got nothing but positive reactions.



What

* Had sex with 2 different women in a 48 hour period.

* Had a woman lick my asshole. Amazing.

* Got fucked in the ass with fingers and toys by two different women. Wow.

* Fucked two different women in the ass a few times. Incredible.

* Stared into the eyes of a woman while she licked pussy for the first time of a woman who had never been with another woman.

* Got experience dominating and being submissive to a woman (with two different women together and three separately on a few occasions) using, whips, restraints, flogging, cuffs, tied one to a saddle, nipple clamps, dirty language, blindfolds, satin, food, candle wax, oils, dildos, vibrators, cock rings, feathers, silk dust and more…needless to say I am a full switch...

* Had my first threesome with two women: one who had minimal experience in group situations and the other who had zero experience with groups and zero experiences with women. I am officially and completely hooked.

* Had my cock sucked on at the same time by two women.

* Being tied and spanked and dominated by two women who took turns showing each other new tricks. Yum.



Where

(Most not actual firsts but fun none-the-less)

* Had sex in my shower in my new apartment (first time there)

* Had sex in my bed there also (first time there)

* Had sex in the hallway in my West Coast home (first time there)

* Have now had sex in every room of my West Coast home except for the basement

* Had sex in a hot tub for the first time

* Got a hand job in the car on Pacific Coast Highway

* Got a blow job in a strip joint (first time ever)

* Got a hand job on a train between NY and Philly (first time ever)

* Had sex in numerous hotel rooms

* Got a hand job in the open on a couch in a dark restaurant (first time)

* Pulled out my cock and rubbed up against my girlfriend in a phone booth in a restaurant (first time ever)

* Got passionate in numerous elevators (no sex yet but give us time)

* Accidentally ripped the headboard off the wall in a swanky Santa Monica hotel during my first new sex with my former/and newly rediscovered lover.



How Many

* my first and second threesomes (two different groups of girls – both FMF)

* my first bi-phone sex three-way. Me and a M friend on one end hovering over the speaker phone with my EXP on the other end of the line.

* More sexual partners in one year than in any previous year

* More different dating partners than I have ever had in a two-year period (actual sexual and non-sexual dates not including strip clubs…)

And this all before signing on to AdultFriendFinder...hmmm

ON THE PARTY BUS PT. I

I’m on the party bus, late night, hour-long ride home from the gig in Annapolis. I put my shirt as a pillow under Shelli’s head for she has fallen asleep in the seat behind me. She is one of the most stunningly beautiful women I have ever encountered. No, seriously. So hot that my friend Paolo recently confessed that he had even followed her around campus on a couple of occasions just to not have to stop looking at her.

Her blouse has fallen open a bit and I can see her entire left nipple in the streetlight that flickers in through the open bus window. Laying my head on the back of my seat, I just stare at her, dreaming of how little rest I'd get if I found myself in bed with her each night, watching her sleep. My hand drops to my lap and in the darkness as everyone is sleeping and passed out, I feel my cock stiffen in my pants and wish I had the balls to pull it out right there.

Suddenly someone slides into the seat next to me. It is another young beauty, the birthday girl Mia who we all sang to earlier in the evening. I'd been eyeing her dancing all night in her tight-fitting, very short batik dress. A sight to behold now plopped down next to me with her bottle of Jim Beam tightly in her grip. She pushes the bottle towards me and as I pull my hand up from my crotch, she glances down and notices the pre-existing condition in my pants. I take what she’s holding and she, in turn, reaches down and gets a firm hold on what was just in my hand. As she persistently rubs my heated lap she says, “Ah ha, so you knew I was coming.”

“Are you?” I say practically out of breath from the excitement.

“In a minute,” she replies with a grin and spreads her legs invitingly. Her blue mini-dress slides up the top of her legs and I transfer the bottle to my left hand before sliding my right up the inside of her soft inner thigh. When I reach her young, panty-less crotch, I feel her slick, shaved quim already wet and awaiting my fingertips' slow caresses.

I lean over and give her a lingering kiss and she makes a soft little moan as my middle finger slips slowly into her body. She fumbles a bit for my zipper and then delicately eases it down and pulls my engorged cock out into the humid night air. All of the windows on the bus are open and there are 2-3 drunken voices reveling near the back, everyone else silent, buzzed, exhausted.

She glances down at my throbbing rod filling her small, strong hand and immediately stands and throws a leg over mine and as her skirt pulls up on its own, she slides down and impales herself on my anxiousness.

Her athletic, 22-year old body--she’s a track star, the only woman on a men’s college team—takes control and I am pinned beneath her, her soaked flesh is as tight as can be around me and she leans over to whisper in my ear, “Fill me up, baby. I can feel your heat inside.” She moves slowly so as to not attract much attention, throws her arms on top of my shoulders and pulls my face into her cleavage. I lick between her pert, young breasts and suddenly I feel a hand slip down my chest, slide directly to my right nipple. It pinches and pulls slowly with increasing pressure until the glorious pain rocks my head. Noticing that Mia’s arms are still over my shoulders, I realize that the playful nipple torturer is Shelli, her arm over the back of my seat joining in on our little party from behind us. I feel her tongue briefly at my ear and she whispers, “Save some for me, boy.”

“Oooooooooooo,” Mia is now cooing above me, her hair hanging on either side of her face. I stare up at her in the flashing freeway light. She is so very young. Flawless skin and ruby lips slightly open and breathing heavily. She grips my cock with her taut cunt and I feel her milking me up and down with her muscles only. She moves only her hips so from anywhere else in the bus all seems still. Shelli leans in and starts to kiss Mia sweetly on the neck and cheek through her hair until Mia turns to her and meets her lips daringly. In a very short time, I feel her begin to spasm and the waves start rolling up from her, her thighs wrapping tighter around me. “Fuck…oh my god…” Shelli giggles at Mia's outburst, ‘Ssssh. Quiet, baby.’

I can smell Shelli’s sweet breath in close proximity to us, as she pulls my nipple, twisting hard and slowly as I begin to feel waves of my own. “Cum, cum, cum inside me, come with me, cu..oh god…oh..” Mia was practically incoherent, squeezing and shuddering all over my cock and as she pushes all the way down onto me, her clit hitting my pubic bone, I turn and look into Shelli’s stunningly gorgeous face as I start to cum…she is smiling so big, so happy, staring into my eyes and I shiver a huge load up into this young girl…Mia grasps hard around my neck and I feel her shoulders shaking and Shelli leans over and kisses me softly on the mouth and I feel her smiling as she kisses me…

“Lucky girl,” Shelli whispers. Mia puts her hands on my shoulders, pushing back away from me and I pull her soaked hair from her face. Tears are rolling down her cheeks and she rolls her eyes saying, “FUCK!” a bit too loudly and the three of us crack up.

We quickly look around and behind us it is pretty quiet. Cute couple Didi and Paul are now making out two seats ahead of us. The kid directly in front of us is snoring through it all and across the aisle from us is a wide-eyed, angelic hippie boy trying to avert his eyes, acting as if wasn’t just witnessing this steamy scene. Mia notices him, climbs off of me and into the seat next to him, plants a big, lingering kiss on his lips and then curls up and falls asleep in his arms. He is completely shocked, the look of a deer caught in the headlights on his face.

Shelli climbs around the seat and in next to me. She bends and takes my semi-hard cock to her lips, licking the remains of Mia and I off of me before rising up to kiss me deep and long. She tucks my hardening cock back into my pants and whispers, “No wonder your girlfriends adore you so much.” I chuckle and am at a loss for words, for she is truly one of the great beauties I have ever seen. “Promise me you won’t let it go too long without having some fun with me,” she says, her lips pressed to my ear. If we weren’t so close to the end of the trip, I’d stand her on the seat on her knees and eat her pussy and ass all the way home.

“You are at the top of my list, gorgeous,” I reply.

Looking me directly in the eye, she smiled slyly, “What are you doing tomorrow night?”